Miscarriage Keepsakes for your Angelbaby

What it Means to Be an AngelMum

Losing a baby to miscarriage is difficult for many reasons. Women who have been through miscarriage often refer to their lost babies as ‘Angelbabies’ and themselves as ‘AngelMums’.

I am an AngelMum.

One of the difficulties that comes with miscarriage is the fact that in Australia, the loss of your baby before 20 weeks is not legally recognised. This means that whether you lose your baby at 5 weeks or 19 weeks and 5 days, your baby will not be registered and you will not receive a birth or death certificate.

In a way, not having your AngelBaby legally recognised leaves many Mums feeling like the world also does not recognise the greatness of their loss.

In a way, not having your AngelBaby legally recognised leaves many Mums feeling like the world also does not recognise the greatness of their loss. From personal experience, I wanted my baby recognised, I wanted my baby to be remembered. At the time, I didn’t know what to do. So I simply wrote about my experience and feelings about my baby in a journal.

What I would have loved, is a keepsake.

AngelBaby Miscarriage Keepsakes by Rachel-isms

Finding an AngelBaby keepsake can be difficult. For me personally, I would want one that isn’t negative, and one that won’t make me want to cry every time I look at it. I would want something simple, beautiful, and positive.

Rachel-isms seems to do just that. It is run by a Mum to four children, who encourages moms to share their unique stories with her custom jewelry.

Here are some beautiful examples that I would suggest taking a look at.

This is one of my newest ideas for jewelry that honors miscarriage. They are not yet posted in my shop for sale, but I am taking orders for them. Each bead still represents a child, but they are simple and able to be worn with everything. Typically, I use the white pearls for angels and turquoise for living children. As always, I desire to honor your story and make a piece that is meaningful for you. ✨ #wearyourstory … rachelleisms.com

A photo posted by Rachelle-isms (@rachelle.isms) on Sep 29, 2016 at 2:17pm PDT

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@stacey.renee.b Story Part 1: My husband and I met in grade 9 English class in high school and began dating shortly after. After being long distance all through university we got married on June 2nd 2012 when we were just 21 years old! We had talked about having children but always said that we would start trying when we were 25 years old and not a moment earlier. Turns out we just could not wait that long and we stopped all birth control in September of 2013 but nothing was happening. I would diligently take tests but was always disappointed with the results. It wasn’t until March 14th, 2014 that I got my first positive pregnancy test and we were surprised and ecstatic. We kept the news just between the two of us because I knew the risks of miscarriage and we resolved not to tell anyone until the magic 12 week mark. On Mother’s Day we told our families that we were expecting and we celebrated that news for 4 days until my very first ultrasound. I was so excited to see my baby for the first time but all I can remember is the tech saying “it’s smaller that what we usually see at this stage”. Shortly after we were told that our baby had no heartbeat. We were sent to emergency because I had been carrying our baby deceased for nearly two months. I took cytotec and passed our first angel at home. I’ve always struggled with the fact that he or she was simply flushed down the toilet. We started trying again immediately after I recovered from the loss. I so wanted to fill the emptiness I felt inside of me. It took another year to the day before I got my next positive test. Our second baby would have the same due date as our first and i took it as a sign that big brother or sister was watching over us. Because of my previous loss I was referred to a specialist right away and started blood work and was book for an early ultrasound. The ultrasound showed only a sac. The blood work showed my HCG increasing Tuesday to Thursday and after no call from my doctor I assumed everything was fine. That weekend I began bleeding and got a call from my doctor that my HCG had dropped on Friday. I passed this angel at home naturally. ♥ See next photo for Part 2 #wearyourstory

A photo posted by Rachelle-isms (@rachelle.isms) on Aug 9, 2016 at 11:21am PDT

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Dear Grieving Mother, I see you. I see your broken heart. I see your empty arms. I am so sorry for your losses. Your sweet babies are dancing in heaven while we wrap our arms around each other and, as a community, grieve and comfort one another. You are not alone. I do not know you personally, but I know your heart’s cry and I am sending you my love and support this morning. 💕💕 #wearyourstory … www.rachelle-isms.com #rachelleisms #miscarriage #pregnancyloss #babyloss #angelmom #peapod #peasinapod #threepeasinapod #customjewelry #handmadejewellery #handmadejewelry #motherhood #infertility #ttc #ivf #iui #tryingtoconceive #whathealsyou #captureyourgrief

A photo posted by Rachelle-isms (@rachelle.isms) on Aug 26, 2016 at 3:35am PDT

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I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart) I am never without it (anywhere I go you go, my dear; and whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling) I fear no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) I want no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true) and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant and whatever a sun will always sing is you here is the deepest secret nobody knows (here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows higher than soul can hope or mind can hide) and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart. I carry your heart (I carry it in my heart) – E E Cummings … www.rachelle-isms.com #wearyourstory #eecummings #icarryyourheart #poetry

A photo posted by Rachelle-isms (@rachelle.isms) on Aug 28, 2016 at 5:40am PDT

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Eleni Fegan is the founder and Managing Editor of DearBub Blog and Magazine which began from a personal journey of research and healing. Her motivation for DearBub is beautifully summarised in her Editor’s Letter: “I realised that there is beauty to giving voice to our experiences, and raising an awareness that we are not alone in them. I realised the immense power that ‘sharing’ had in transforming our sense of self and being through creating connection”.

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